THE BLOG

Welcome

Control is an Illusion

Control is an Illusion

Hands up if you like to be in control?  As a recovering control freak, you are my people 😅⁠⁠The need to control people and situations is a common personality trait in people with chronic pain. And this is a trauma response, because we have acquired the false belief...

read more
internal Stress, Personality Traits and Self-compassion

internal Stress, Personality Traits and Self-compassion

How are you talking to yourself? We get so used to our negative patterns of thought and self-talk, that we are often unaware of how much internal stress we are piling on ourselves. Certain personality traits can make us more vulnerable to internal stress If you have a...

read more
embracing guilt

embracing guilt

Guilt is a hard emotion to feel. Most of us will do anything to avoid it. People pleasing, perfectionism, and self-criticism are just some of the ways we try to protect ourselves from having to feel guilty about things. But guilt means we are taking care of our own...

read more
How Do Personality Traits Contribute to Chronic Pain?

How Do Personality Traits Contribute to Chronic Pain?

People pleasing. Constantly wanting to please people usually means you have poor boundaries and put other people's needs before your own. This can generate a lot of unconscious anger and resentment. Perfectionism. Achieving perfection is impossible, so you're setting...

read more